Good sense makes one slow to anger,
and it is his glory to overlook an offense.
Pretty sure this might be applicable to parenting and discipline.
Good sense makes one slow to anger,
and it is his glory to overlook an offense.
Pretty sure this might be applicable to parenting and discipline.
Yeah, Chris Atwood (http://threehierarchies.blogspot.com/) once mentioned that if we learned our parenting techniques from God’s behavior in the Old Testament, that we’d be accused of over-indulgence by today’s Christian parenting gurus.
In contrast to “first-time obedience,” God instead warns, and warns, and warns, and warns his children about the consequences of disobedience. And then gives them more of a grace period before actual judgment comes.
I thought it was a thought-provoking comment. But I still want “first-time obedience” from my kids. 🙂
Off topic: I like the Luther quotation that explains the blog title.
On topic: I’ve often recommended Ted Tripp’s Shepherding a Child’s Heart. Someone recently asked me if Tripp wasn’t overscupulous. I don’t remember that he is, but it put the issue in my mind so that this verse from Proverbs jumped out at me.
What do you think about Tripp’s insistence that spanking is the only legitimate form of discipline? (citing Proverbs 13.24).
Well, obviously I think spanking is sometimes needed, but I agree with my OT prof in seminary who took “the rod” as representative of a continuum of discipline ranging from a word of rebuke, to grounding, etc, to spanking.
Maybe it is dangerous for me to recommend any book I have read more than two years ago….
Might this text be limited to personal offenses and not disobedience to godly principles? For example, my 4 year old flat out lied to me this morning. I wasn’t at all personally offended. But I did spank her out of a desire to teach her that lying has negative results, all the time. She knew I wasn’t personally mad at her. All of this to say that I’m wondering if there is difference between “overlooking offenses” and requiriring first time obedience from one’s children…for their sake, that is. Thoughts?
but I agree with my OT prof in seminary who took “the rod” as representative of a continuum of discipline ranging from a word of rebuke, to grounding, etc, to spanking.
Yeah, that’s where we went with it also. Other than that, we found Tripp’s book to be helpful, especially his unique perspective on certain punishments being a form of manipulation, and his emphasis on addressing the heart.
JRC