How old must a boy be before he can take communion? What must your  daughter do before she may be admitted to the Lord’s Table? These  questions are becoming a burning issue in Reformed churches. Indeed,  more and more people are beginning to question if there is any  legitimate reason that a baptized child should be required to meet some  sort of additional criterion before being admitted to the Lord’s Supper.
While that debate still awaits resolution, however, another question  is often overlooked: If we assume that only “professing” Christians  should be admitted to the Lord’s Supper, how old does that professing  Christian need to be? What counts as a “profession”?
It is the purpose of this essay to deal with that question. I will  argue that a young child whose parents have taught him to love and trust  Jesus is a professing Christian and should be admitted to the Lord’s  Supper. My concern is that we Presbyterians often assume that the  statements of love for Jesus made by our young covenant children are  somehow insincere and unworthy of consideration. We seem to think that  the conversion experience and profession of faith of an adult who  repents of self-conscious unbelief is the standard by which our young  four- and five-year-old children should be judged. Thus, we insist on something else in addition to a profession of faith before we permit children to partake of the  Lord’s Supper. Ultimately, we simply make children wait several more  years before we will take their professions seriously.
But what does the Bible say?
Children & the Covenant Feasts
 
Blow a trumpet in Zion,
Consecrate a fast, proclaim a solemn assembly,
Gather the people, sanctify the congregation,
Assemble the elders,
Gather the children and the nursing infants.
Let the bridegroom come out of his room
And the bride out of her bridal chamber (Joel 2.15-16).
Here we find that God considers children, and even infants, members  of His congregation. Furthermore, when He declares a fast, God expects  the children to take part in some way.
Children were also included in the feasts of Israel, as well as the  fasts. The Passover, for instance, was established for all the members  of Israelite families without any age limit (Exo 12). Indeed, the  inclusion of children at God’s feast was one of the bones of contention  between Egypt and Israel. At one point Pharaoh would have let the  Israelites go worship God if they had left their “little ones” behind  with him (Exo 10.10). Moses had a different idea: “We shall go with our  young and our old, with our sons and our daughters, with our flocks and  our herds we will go, for we must hold a feast to the Lord”  (Exo 10.9). The flocks and herds were needed for sacrifice (Exo 10.25),  but obviously the children are simply considered participants with the  adults.
Other examples of little children at sacred meals abound in the Old  Testament. Children ate manna with their parents (Exo 16), which the  Apostle Paul tells us was a sacrament (1 Cor 10.3). The children of  priests partook of the portions from the altar with their parents (Lev  10.14). In addition to Passover, all Israelite children were invited to  participate in the Feast of Weeks and the Feast of Booths (Exo 12.3; Deu  16.11, 14; 1 Sam 1.4). They also ate of the family peace offerings (Deu  12.6-7, 11-12, 17-18). God emphasized that all the congregation was  invited to participate in such meals at the Tabernacle, including the  children.
You are not allowed to eat within your gates the tithe of  your grain, or new wine, or   oil, or the first-born of your herd or  flock, or any of your votive offerings which you   vow, or your freewill  offerings, or the contribution of your hand. But you shall eat them    before the LORD your God in the place which the LORD your God will  choose, you and   your son and daughter, and your male and  female servants, and the Levite who is   within your gates; and you  shall rejoice before the LORD your God in all your undertakings   (Deu  12.17-18).
Why were children invited to eat along with their parents? Because  God promised that the children of believers belong to the Lord just as  their parents do. God promised Abraham “to be God to you and to your  children after you” (Gen 17.7). The Psalmist reiterates this  foundational promise, singing: “the lovingkindness of the Lord is from  everlasting to everlasting on those who fear Him, and His righteousness  to children’s children” (Psa 103.17).
“And as for Me, this is My covenant with them,” says the  Lord: “My   Spirit which is upon you, and My words which I have put in  your mouth, shall not depart   from your mouth, nor from the mouth of  your offspring, nor from the mouth of your   offspring’s offspring,”  says the Lord, “from now and forever” (Isa 59.21).
The bottom line here is that the Bible promises believers that God  will be their God, that He will give them His righteousness, and that  His Spirit will not depart from them. What more could anybody ask for?  Our children are clearly promised eternal salvation. They are declared  to be Christians, nothing less.
Now, let’s be clear, these promises do not mean that our children  will somehow end up in Heaven automatically whether or not they have  faith in Christ. No, apart from faith no one will be justified. But they  do mean that we ought not dismiss the fact that our small children love  God and trust Jesus just as we have taught them to. Our little children are believers. We should take the claim of a child to believe in Jesus at face value.  We should expect them to simply grow in the Faith from the time of  infancy to adulthood. (For more on the authenticity of the faith of  children, see “Children & Confession” below.)
This expectation found its way into the inspired hymns of Israel’s  worship: “From the mouth of infants and nursing babes Thou has  established strength” (Psa 8.2). And again: “For Thou art my hope; O  LORD God, Thou art my confidence from my youth. Upon Thee I have been  supported from birth; Thou art He who took me from my mother’s womb; my  praise is continually in Thee . . . O God, Thou hast taught me from my  youth” (Psa 71.5-6, 17). “Yet Thou art He who didst bring me forth from  the womb; Thou didst make me trust when upon my mother’s breasts. Upon  Thee I was cast from birth; Thou hast been my God from my mother’s womb”  (Psa 22.9-10).
It is important to realize that these inspired Psalms are not simply  the personal testimony of the psalmist. They are not some sort of  extraordinary event which we can regard as exceptional compared to how  the children of believers ordinarily come to faith in Christ. No, these  Psalms were the corporate hymns of Israel’s public worship. The whole  congregation of Israel (including the children!-see Joel 2.15-16 above)  sang these Psalms in the presence of the Lord. It would be entirely  illegitimate to say that faith from the womb was only meant for some  exceptional cases. The regular use of these Psalms on the part of the  whole congregation of Israel shows that the salvation of children from  the womb was the general expectation.
There are many hymns today about adult conversion from unbelief, yet  there is not one Psalm which speaks of that subject. On the other hand,  have you ever sung a modern Christian hymn that called for you to put  yourself in the place of one who was regenerated in the womb? Our hymns  show that we generally expect only adults to be converted. That general  expectation is incompatible with God’s hymn book, the Psalter.
There is no evidence that any of this was changed by the coming of  Christ in the New Testament. Jesus amply confirmed the Old Testament  testimony regarding children:
And they were bringing children to Him so that He might  touch them; and the disciples   rebuked them. But when Jesus saw this,  He was indignant and said to them, “Permit the   children to come to Me;  do not hinder them; for the kingdom of God belongs to such as   these.  Truly I say to you whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a  child shall   not enter it at all.” And He took them in His arms and  began blessing them, laying   His hands upon them (Mark 10.13-16).
Now, how do we justify measuring the profession of a young child  according to the standards of older converts? According to Jesus, our  thinking, like the thinking of the disciples, is precisely backwards!  Children are the standard by which adults are to be judged. Little  children raised from birth to love and trust Jesus must not be treated as if they don’t know God or are incapable of true faith.
Children & Conversion
The truth is clear: God wants us to regard our children as  Christians. He does not want us to regard them as little unbelievers who  need to be converted at some later age. There is nothing anywhere in  Scripture about an “age of accountability” after which their profession  of faith may be believed but before which is to be considered insincere  hypocrisy.
However, there is a widespread notion among Christians, that our  children need to be “converted”-experience a self-conscious time in  which one “became” a Christian. Besides all the promises and statements  of Scripture that I mentioned above (and more could be cited), we need  to ask ourselves if we really know what we are saying when we demand a  conversion experience from our children. What is it that our children  need to be converted from?
Do they need to repent of refusing to believe the Gospel? I  have never heard anywhere of a three-year-old or four-year-old child who  tells his mommy or daddy that they are wrong when they say that God  exists, or that Jesus died for their sins, or that the Holy Spirit lives  in our hearts. To tell children that they need to “believe,” is a  rather strange use of the word. By the grace of God our young children  never know a time when they did not believe the Gospel! They need to be  encouraged to persevere in their belief and grow up to be mature Godly  men and women; they do not need their faith undermined by a parent who  claims that they are actually unbelievers who have yet to demonstrate  true faith!
Do they need to repent of denying the gospel by living in unrepentant sin? Of course, children are sinners, and need to be taught to continually  repent and pray for forgiveness when they commit sins. But how can  anyone accuse children of living in unrepentant sin? If you accused a  professing Christian adult of such a thing, you would need to have  evidence or else you would be guilty of gross slander. What did our  children ever do to be lumped into the category of “hypocrite,” without  any evidence whatsoever? Why should they be considered guilty until  proven innocent?
Do they need to repent of trying to save themselves by their own good works? If we teach our children that they are sinners, and that God loves them  anyway and sent His Son Jesus to die in their place, why would any  child ever think that he can get to Heaven by being good enough? On the  other hand, if we teach our children that, though they believe and trust  in Jesus, they still need to do something more in order to go to  Heaven, aren’t we actually teaching them that faith is not enough, but  must be supplemented by some sort of additional work? (For other  objections regarding children and salvation by works, see “Children  & Confession” below.)
What Christian parents often seem to forget is that, if we say our  children are not yet converted, then we are claiming that they are  God-haters on their way to Hell. There is no other option. Some people  have tried to invent a third possibility by claiming that children are  not sinners in God’s sight until they reach some unknown “age of  accountability.” This lets them consider their children out of danger  until about the time they make a profession of faith.
But this idea simply proves that necessity is the mother of  invention. The “age of accountability” is believed simply because it is  unthinkable to consider one’s children enemies of Christ and the Gospel  for the first decade of their lives. There is no evidence for any such  “age” in Scripture, before which they are not guilty of sin. On the  contrary, “Behold I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin my mother  conceived me” (Psa 51.5). Again: “The wicked are estranged from the  womb; these who speak lies go astray from the womb (Psa 58.3).
This inborn wickedness is simply the consequence of Original Sin.  Adam and Eve did not fall for themselves alone. Just as their children  would have enjoyed the benefits and blessings of Adam’s obedience, so  they suffered the corruption and guilt of Adam’s sin. Adam’s children  are born in his image as sinners (Gen 5.3). By Adam’s sin, death and sin  have spread to all people because we all sinned in him (Rom 5.1214).  There is no point in anyone’s existence, no age no matter how young,  when that person is not ethically accountable to God. Either he is a  Hell-bound sinner, or he is saved by grace. He is either in the Old  Adam, or in the New Adam. If our children have not been incorporated  into Jesus Christ by the Holy Spirit then they are without God and  without hope in the world. There are no other options.
And do we not believe that our children are incorporated into Christ?  When a child is born to us, do we not rejoice? Do we not see with our  own eyes our babies admitted into the Church by baptism? Do we not teach  them to pray the Lord’s Prayer? To call God by the name of “Father”? Do  we not smile when they learn to sing “Jesus Loves Me”? If our children  are unconverted then all of this is totally wrong. We are simply giving  them false confidence. It is blasphemy for an unbeliever to say the  Lord’s Prayer and call God his “Father.” It is presumption for an  unregenerate hypocrite to sing, “Jesus loves me this I know, for the  Bible tells me so.”
When unthinkable tragedy strikes Christians, and a mother miscarries  or a toddler dies, do we think that the child is now in Hell? Or do we  trust in God’s promise that He is the God not only of ourselves but of  our children as well? I once heard a caller to the “Bible Answer Man,”  under an obvious weight of emotional stress, ask about his  two-and-half-year-old. He was calling on the anniversary of her death in  an automobile accident. His daughter, he said, prayed to Jesus and  joyfully sang about Him, but he didn’t think she had ever knowingly  “asked Jesus into her heart.” Because of this, the man was unsure that  his child was in Heaven.
Thank God He has given us firm covenant promises which we can trust!  We don’t have to suffer the sort of torment which other Christian  parents put themselves through because they don’t understand the  covenant. But let’s not undermine these precious promises with any false  and shallow ideas about conversion which would deny Christ’s blessings  to our young children.
Children & Confession
Of course, sometimes children raised as Christians don’t give us the  answers that we expect of them. If we ask a four-year-old girl why she  would be admitted into Heaven, she might say, “Because I go to Church,”  or “Because I obey my parents.”
Now this may sound like the treason of works-righteous, but are we  really understanding the child’s meaning when we interpret her words in  such a way? After all, the only reason we can expect to inherit eternal  life is because God, in His great mercy, has promised to give eternal  life. But He has not promised to give eternal life to everyone. Only  those who belong to Christ will benefit from what He has done. I often  suspect that the child is simply explaining why she thinks she belongs  to Christ. She is not explaining the meritorious ground of her  justification (the imputed righteousness of Jesus Christ), or the  instrument of her justification (faith), but rather by giving reasons  for believing that she is one of God’s people to whom the promise of  eternal life has been given. And those reasons involve one’s membership  in God’s covenant, the Church, and all the fruits which count as  evidence that one is truly God’s child-including one’s obedience to the  authorities God has appointed.
In other words, if Jesus asked the five-year-old girl, “Why should I  let you into my Heaven?” her answer is, “Because you promised to let me  in.” The mention of obedience and church attendance is evidence that the  child is among those to whom Christ has made that promise. Our  Confession of Faith recognizes this sort of answer because assurance of  eternal life is based in part on the presence “of those graces to which  the promises are made” (18.2).
How should we deal with such confusion? How should we make sure that  our children know the difference between a reason for assurance of  eternal life and a reason for the meriting of eternal life? Very simply,  we should try to explain it in an age-appropriate fashion. If the child  says that she gets to go to Heaven because she goes to Church, we  should not be shocked, but simply explain to her that people who go to  Church get to go to Heaven because Jesus died for them. As the child  grows and matures a more elaborate explanation can (and should) be given  (one that explains why not all people who go to Church will get to  Heaven, etc.).
It is a certainly true that a three-year-old believer will confess  his faith differently than a thirteen-year-old. And a thirteen-year-old  will confess his faith differently than a thirty-three-year-old. As the  believer gets older his confession should become more comprehensive. But  where in the Bible does it give us an age at which one’s confession is  comprehensive enough to count as genuine, and before which it is  regarded simply as rote and insincere? We have no more warrant for  discounting the confession of a three-year-old than that of a  thirteen-year-old, or even a thirty-three-year-old. All three of them  could always mature further in the Faith and give a more comprehensive  confession. If God says that He has prepared praise “from the mouth of  infants and nursing babes” (Matt 21.16; Psa 8.2), then we are on rather  dangerous ground claiming that the immature confession of faith of a  child is not good enough to count as a genuine Christian confession. If  we patiently get to know these little ones, we will find that they are  believers, even if they can’t explain doctrines as well as we would  expect from older children.
Another common objection to taking the confession of children as an  evidence of genuine Christian faith is that young children will believe  or do anything that their parents teach them, and that  therefore their profession of faith is not to be regarded as sincere or  authentic. But does such an objection make any sense? The reason why  children believe whatever their parents teach them is precisely because  they are quite capable of sincere faith! Furthermore, the Bible promises that the Holy Spirit is at work in our children (Isa 59.21). When  parents train and discipline their child in the nurture and admonition  of the Lord, there is more going on than a purely natural work. We are  not simply conditioning our children by rewards and punishments. The  Holy Spirit is also at work in the child’s heart. This expectation of  the Spirit’s work in our children should affect how we view our  children’s faith. When the Bible says that “every spirit that confesses  that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God” (1 John 4.2), no  exception is given for children under the age of five-years-old.
Finally, the fact that some children grow up and apostatize from the  Faith is viewed as a reason for us to not take a four-year-old’s  confession of faith seriously. But this also happens with adults who  profess faith. The Bible tells us that Simon the Sorcerer “believed”  (Act 8.13), but then fell away. Jesus told us that some in the Church  will “believe for a while, and in time of temptation fall away” (Luk  8.13). The Bible does not give us some age after which we no longer need  to worry about the possibility of apostasy. If we can take the  profession of faith of an adult at face value, despite the possibility  of apostasy, then there is no reason we should not also take the  profession of faith of a child at face value.
How do we deal with the possibility that a child might apostatize in  the future? The same way we deal with that possibility for adults. We  exhort them to continue in the faith (Col 1.23), to grow and mature as  Christians through the means of grace. We exhort them not to receive the  grace of God in vain by turning away from the Gospel (2 Cor 6.1), but  to hold fast to the Word by which they are saved (1 Cor 15.2). In other  words, we exhort all professing Christians to persevere. But we do not  treat people as virtual nonchristians until they achieve some level of  commitment which makes them “real” Christians who no longer need to  worry about persevering.
What is the Significance of Admission to the Lord’s Supper?
The Apostle Paul writes:
Is not the cup of blessing which we bless a sharing in  the blood of Christ? Is not the   bread which we break a sharing in the  body of Christ? Since there is one bread, we who are   many are one  body; for we all partake of the one bread. Look at the nation of Israel;  are   not those who eat the sacrifices sharers in the altar? (1 Cor  10.16-18).
Here we see a couple of things. First of all, the Apostle Paul ties  the Lord’s Supper to all the peace offerings, the Priest’s portions, and  the three festivals of Passover, the Feast of Weeks, and the Feast of  Booths-for all of these involved eating from the altar. As we have seen  above, in all of these situations, the children were participants in the  sacraments.
Secondly, and more importantly, we see that permitting someone to  participate in the Lord’s Supper simply signifies that the participant  is recognized to be a Christian-to be part of the body of Christ. That  is why we invite visitors from other denominations to participate in  Communion with us. If they are members of Christian churches then they  have a right to eat and drink with us. For us to only allow  Presbyterians to have access to the Lord’s Supper would be to declare  that we think all non-Presbyterians are unbelievers. Because it is the Lord’s Supper and not our supper, we know it would be highly offensive to Christ for us to cut off other Christians from the sacrament.
Now, according to the Bible, our children who have been raised to  believe in Jesus are (at least!) as much Christians as adults are who  believe in Jesus. They are members of Christ’s body, the Church. Thus,  they certainly ought to be permitted to partake of the Lord’s Supper.
The Reformed “Regulative Principle of Worship”
At what age should a child be admitted to the Lord’s Supper? One of the most notable facts in this debate is that the Bible does not tell us!  From the time that an eight-day-old boy is circumcised, to the age of  twenty when a man could go to war (Num 14.29), there is no age at which a  child reaches some sort of stage of maturity which admits him to the  feasts. It simply is not an issue in Scripture for the simple reason  that young children were never denied access to the feasts to begin  with!
Thus, different Reformed Churches have admitted children to the  Lord’s Supper at vastly different ages. Some have waited for a  profession of faith at the age of seven, and some have waited for the  seventeenth year. Since there is no Biblical standard to which anyone  can appeal, there is no common practice among Christians. Lacking an age  at which one is to be admitted to the Lord’s Supper, we have been  forced to make one up out of the imaginations of our hearts.
Some have begun saying that the age of thirteen, the time of the  Jewish bar mitzvah, is the age when a child should be admitted to the  Lord’s Supper. But there is no instruction about bar-mitzvah’s in the  Bible. That is merely a Jewish tradition of men. And, in fact, in  Judaism children have always partaken of Passover at young ages, long  before they ever reach their bar-mitzvah. So not only is there no reason  to resort to non-christian Jewish traditions, but those traditions do  not support making children wait until the age of thirteen before  they’re allowed to participate in the Lord’s Supper.
Why do some people feel the need to grasp at such straws in order to  find a standard by which to know when a child can be admitted to the  Lord’s Supper? The answer, I think, lies in the Regulative Principle of Worship.  According to the Reformed understanding, we must worship God in the way  that He commands in Scripture by precept, principle, or example. But  there is no precept, principle, or example for us in this matter. If we  are determined to hold back children from the Lord’s Supper until they  reach a certain age, we then must be arbitrary in what age we  decide upon. Scripture is deafeningly silent on the question, because  Scripture is unaware of any such age.
Is A Double Standard Justifiable?
Throughout cultures influenced by Christianity, it became a slogan in  times of hardship or emergency to abide by the rule, “Women and  children first.” In a Christian society those who are weaker and more  vulnerable are given special help to compensate.
Now, sometimes this rule does not apply. For example, a woman and a  man who commit the same crime should receive the same punishment.  Furthermore, physical requirements for fire fighters should not be  relaxed for the sake of women, because that would endanger the lives  both of the women and those needing rescue from fire. Thus, sometimes a  good standard applied evenly will discriminate against weaker members of  society. However, it is always the case that a weaker member of society should not be held to some higher or more strict standard than others. On Christian principles, such a practice would be positively perverse.
Now consider how we apply the traditional understanding of 1  Corinthians 11.27-31. We say we interpret this verse to mean that anyone  who partakes of the Lord’s Supper must be able to “examine  himself”–search his conscience–and “judge the body rightly”–understand  what the bread represents. Now there is currently a debate going on as  to whether the passage has been properly interpreted, and whether it was  ever meant to apply to children. That is an interesting debate, but it  is rather irrelevant to the way we Presbyterians actually apply the  passage. Let’s assume for the sake of argument that the traditional  interpretation of the passage is correct: What actually happens in real life is that the passage is almost always applied only to children. Adults are permitted to partake of the Lord’s Supper whereas children put under additional requirements which hold them back from sacramental fellowship. These  requirements would also hold back many adults from the Lord’s Supper if  we ever bothered to apply them to grown-ups.
Consider a new adult convert who has just been baptized. That person  would be permitted and even encouraged to partake of the Lord’s Supper  that very day, even though he might only have the most rudimentary  understanding of the Law of God or the meaning of the Lord’s Supper. One  of our children could easily possess a better understanding of the Law  of God and thus a better ability to examine his conscience; yet that  child would not be allowed to partake. One of our children could easily  possess a better understanding of the sacrament than a recent adult  convert; yet the adult is admitted to the Table while the child is  barred.
Consider visitors to our congregation from other denominations. We  don’t bar visitors from the Lord’s Table do we? No, we tell them that  the Lord’s Table is for all Christians. If they are members in good  standing of an Evangelical Church, they are invited to join us in  Communion. Thus, Baptists, who believe that the bread and wine are  nothing more than symbols, or Missouri Synod Lutherans, who perhaps go  to the other extreme, are permitted and encouraged to eat and drink with  us. Meanwhile, our own children who have probably never even imagined  such doctrinal errors are made to be nothing more than observers.
Consider elderly Christians. When was the last time someone was  barred from the Lord’s Supper because he was senile and no longer  possessed the mental capacity to “examine himself” or “judge the body  rightly”? I think we all recoil from the idea that a great-grandmother  should be kept from sacramental fellowship with the Church and Christ  just because she has lost some of her mental abilities near the end of  her life. We don’t excommunicate people for getting senile! But a child  with even greater mental ability is made to wait until he meets some  other greater requirement.
The point here is that, when it comes to adults, we all know what  participation in the Lord’s Supper means: It means that the participants  are Christians. Nothing more! It does not require a great deal  of ethical or doctrinal understanding and never has. All an adult has  to do to take the Lord’s Supper is not be engaging in unrepentant,  scandalous sin. Thus, only children are actually made to submit  to the rules which we tell ourselves are for everybody. Children, and  only children, actually have to worry about some vaguely defined “level  of understanding.” Only children actually have to reach some precise  level of knowledge about the meaning of the Lord’s Supper.
We all know that we fence the Lord’s Table from unbelievers. But now  we do more. What we virtually end up doing is fencing the Lord’s Table  from unbelievers and children–as if they both belonged in the  same category. Everything we profess to believe about God’s covenant  promises to our children is severely undermined by this practice.
Are We “Judging the Body Rightly” When We Exclude Children?
As mentioned above, the “classic text” used in Reformed circles for  keeping young children away from the Lord’s Supper is 1 Corinthians  11.27-29. According to the traditional view, children should not be  admitted to the Lord’s Supper because a child cannot “examine himself”  or “judge the body.” The problem here is that there is simply no  evidence anywhere in Scripture that children are incapable of doing  these things.
What I wrote above about the confession of a young child also applies  to the self-examination of a young child. A four-year-old girl is  capable of examining her conscience according to the capacity of her  age. Yes, there is a difference between what a four-year-old can do and a  fourteen-year-old can, just as there is a difference between the sort  of self-examination a fourteen-year-old is able to do and what a  forty-year-old is able to do. But there is no Biblical warrant for  claiming that the four-year-old’s self-examination is insufficient. We  could, with as much Biblical warrant (i.e. none) claim that only people  twenty-five years old and up are “mature enough” or have reached the  correct “level of understanding” to take the Lord’s Supper.
Likewise, there is no Biblical reason to claim that a five-year-old  boy is incapable of understanding that the bread represents Christ’s  body and the wine His blood. Of course, if some sort of exhaustive understanding is required of the nature of the sacrament, then we  should all stop partaking. Even the great theologian John Calvin  admitted that he could not completely fathom the mystery of the Supper.
Of course, 1 Corinthians 11.27-29 is still an extremely  relevant passage for deciding whether or not young children should be  permitted to partake of the Lord’s Supper. The Apostle Paul is warning  the Corinthians that they are “sham[ing] those who have nothing” (1 Cor  11.22) because some people are gorging themselves at the Lord’s Supper  while others are not being given anything. Thus, he concludes “So then,  my brethren, when you come together to eat, wait for one another” (1 Cor  11.33). The Apostle Paul is telling the Corinthians that all members of the Church must participate in the Lord’s Supper!
If we deny the sacrament to some members of the Body of Christ then  we are not judging the body rightly. Each one of us needs to examine  himself to see if we are harboring in our hearts the idea that access to  the Lord’s Supper is some sort of achievement on our  part–something to which we have won the right while others have not.  According to the Apostle Paul, this sort of thinking has no place in the  Lord’s Supper. If we partake, without “waiting for one another,” then  we are in danger of eating and drinking judgment against ourselves.
Conclusion: How should we then raise our children?
And it will come about when your children will say to  you, “What is this service   to you?” that you shall say, “It is a  Passover sacrifice to the LORD because He   passed over the houses of  the sons of Israel in Egypt when He smote the Egyptians, but   delivered  our homes (Exo 12.26-27).
When your son asks you in time to come, saying, “What do the  testimonies and the   statutes and the judgments mean which the LORD  commanded you?” then you shall say to   your son, “We were slaves to  Pharaoh in Egypt; and the LORD brought us from Egypt   with a mighty  hand. Moreover, the LORD showed great and distressing signs and wonders    before our eyes against Egypt, Pharaoh and all his household; and He  brought us out from   there in order to bring us in, to give us the land  which He had sworn to our fathers. So   the LORD commanded us to  observe these statutes, to fear the LORD our God for our good   always  and for our survival, as it is today (Deu 6.20-25).
Here we have two different questions which young children are  expected to ask their parents: What does Passover mean? and What does  this way of life mean? The answers which the parents are to give in  response to these two questions are quite similar to one another: We do this because God saved us. That God had delivered Israel from Egypt was an objective historical  fact. It was the object of faith for the Israelites and the surety of  the promises God had made for the future.
God’s deliverance of Israel was a token of His great love for Israel,  which in turn was the basis for Israel’s obedience. Moses explains it  quite clearly:
For you are a holy people to the LORD your God; the LORD  your God has chosen you to be   a people for His special treasure out of  all the peoples who are on the face of the earth.   The LORD did not  set His love on you nor choose you because you were more in number than    any of the peoples, for you were the fewest of all peoples, but  because the LORD loved you   and kept the oath which He swore to your  forefathers, the LORD brought you out by a mighty   hand, and redeemed  you from the house of slavery from the hand of Pharaoh king of Egypt.    Know therefore that the LORD your God, He is God, the faithful God, who  keeps His covenant   and His lovingkindness to a thousandth generation  with those who love Him and keep His   commandments; but repays those  who hate Him to their faces, to destroy them; He will not   delay with  him who hates Him, He will repay him to his face. Therefore, you shall  keep the   commandment and the statutes and the judgments which I am  commanding you today, to do them   (Deu 7.7-11).
Here again we see the faith of Israel: God loves us. God saved us. We must be loyal to Him; if we are ultimately unfaithful we will be cut off from His covenant. This motive is summarized in the beginning of the Ten Commandments: “I  am the LORD your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt our of  the house of slavery. You shall have no other Gods before Me” (Exo  20.2-3). Again: God saved us. We must be loyal to Him.
The Israelites were told to teach their children what God had done  for them, and how they should respond in loving trust and grateful  obedience. Every Israelite knew that God loved him because God loved  Israel and he was a part of Israel. In the case of male children, they  were made members of Israel by circumcision. Nevertheless, they knew  they would not inherit the promises if they did not persevere in faith.
We see this same pattern in the teaching of Jesus, when He told the Eleven disciples:
I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser.  Every branch in Me that does no   bear fruit, He takes away; and every  branch that bears fruit, He prunes it, that it may   bear more fruit.  You are already clean because of the word which I have spoken to you.    Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself,  unless it abides in   the vine, so neither can you, unless you abide in  Me. I am the vine, you are the branches;   he who abides in Me, and I in  him, he bears much fruit; for apart from Me you can do   nothing. If  anyone does not abide in Me, he is thrown away as a branch, and dries  up; and   they gather them and cast them into the fire, and they are  burned. By this is My Father   glorified, that you bear much fruit, and  so prove to be My disciples. Just as the Father   has loved Me, I have  also loved you; abide in My love (John 15.1-9).
Jesus gives His disciples a similar motivation to that which He gave to Old Testament Israel through Moses: Jesus loves us. Jesus saved us. We must be loyal to Him. Jesus gave Himself for His Bride, the Church  (Eph 5.25). Just like the deliverance of Israel from Egypt, Christ’s  victory over Satan and Death through His crucifixion and resurrection is  an objective historical fact. It is the object of faith for all  Christians and the surety of the promises Christ has made for the  future.
Now, we are told to teach our children what God had done for them,  and how they should respond in loving trust and grateful obedience.  Every Christian should know that God loves him because God loves His  Bride the Church and he is a part of the Church. We have all been made  members of the Church through baptism. Nevertheless, we know we will not  inherit the promises if we do not persevere in faith.
Thus, a Christian philosophy of child-raising should be based on our  objective standing in Christ’s Kingdom, conferred on us and our children  through baptism. According to Deuteronomy 6. 20-25, when our children  ask us about why we do certain things or don’t do certain things we  should tell them about what Jesus has done for us: How He died for us  and rose again and sent His Spirit to give His Church union and  communion with Himself. How He providentially arranged for us to be made  members of His Church through baptism and how He weekly renews His  covenant with us–meets with us, forgives our sins, and feeds us with  Himself. How we must respond to His great love and wonderful promises by  believing them with a trusting heart, and by responding in grateful  obedience all our lives.
According to Exodus 12.26-27, when our children ask us about the  Lord’s Supper (the fulfillment of Passover) we are to tell them about  how Jesus gave His body and shed His blood for us so that we might have  His life. Notice that the answer given about Passover is extremely  simple and brief. It could easily be heard and understood by a very  young child. As our children mature in the faith we can give them more  detailed answers to their questions. But the main point is that we  celebrate the Lord’s Supper because He gave Himself for us and nourishes  us with Himself. We love Him because He first loved us. Our little  children need to hear that message over and over again from their  parents.
The only way we can expect any child to have a firm faith is by  giving him a firm foundation on which that faith may rest. If we make  our children think that God’s favor in Christ is something which they  need to attain, then we will greatly confuse them. Instead, we must  teach them that they have been engrafted into Christ (Rom 11.17) by His  great mercy to them. We must raise them to respond to God’s love and  mercy in Christ by a life of faith and obedience, so that they remain in  Him and He in them (John 15.4).
Our children need their faith confirmed by the sacrament of the  Lord’s Supper, just as much as we do. Indeed, if their faith is  relatively weak, that is all the more reason we must reconsider  our practice of barring these professing Christians-these our little  brothers and sisters in Christ-from communion with our Lord. Even apart  from God’s command that we admit all His followers to the  Lord’s Table, our duty to raise our children in the nurture and  admonition in the Lord requires us to admit them.