This is really good news.  I used to think that when Paul wrote,

I therefore, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.

that he was giving me directions for how I was supposed to treat other professing Christians in general–all the members of my congregation.  I found that difficult and was constantly convicted when I read those general exhortations in Ephesians and other epistles.

But no.  I only have to treat the elect this way.  The people who are “faithful in Christ Jesus” as I see it (if Paul can write a letter to the elect, I can pick them out, right?).  For the rest, I can treat them the way we find modeled for us at Reformedmusings.com.