The Apple Does Not Fall Far From the Tree!

It was lunchtime, and I’d gotten Abigail and Jonathan seated at the table when the phone rang. I answered the call, and took Nicolas into the nursery to change his diaper while I chatted briefly (I have one of those newfangled headset things which make accomplishing tasks easier while talking). I was only gone for about 3 minutes. When I returned I was shocked to see a little pile of lovely strawberry blonde hair on the floor below Abigail’s chair. There she sat with scissors in hand about to chop off another lock. “NO!!!” I managed to blurt out before I started hyperventilating.

Well, if she has a career as a hairdresser in her future, hopefully her haircutting skills will improve. She didn’t do such a swell job on this her first try. It seems she took a large chunk out of the middle of her bangs and then neatly lopped about 4 inches off either side in front on the long part of her hair. Which had finally grown long and thick enough to pull back in a ponytail. And which had actually been quite pretty, all one length except for her little fringe of bangs.

When I asked her why she was cutting her hair she answered very seriously, “Mom, it’s been a long time since I had a haircut.” This should reinforce the fact that preschoolers don’t have a real well-developed sense of time, because I had just taken her and Jonathan for cuts last month. But she really believed she needed a haircut! Furthermore, in her mind, she wasn’t breaking any rules: I’d never stipulated that we aren’t to use our little play scissors for hair-cutting!

My hairdresser managed to fix up the sides of Abigail’s hair such that they are neatly angled and look a bit more purposeful. As far as the bangs though, it’s just going to take some time. And coincidently, preschool pictures are scheduled for Tuesday. :) We may choose to have her wear a decorative hat!

But this little incident caused me to think back to my own childhood. I remember a scenario rather similar to this one. I was a little older, around 8 I think, when I heard my mom mention that she needed to trim my little sister Sandy’s bangs. “Well,” I thought to myself, “I can help Mom by doing this little job for her.” I know at the time that it never occurred to me that I might be transgressing by cutting my little sister’s hair. Well, I got out my very own pair of blunt-edged play scissors and went to town on Sandy’s coif. If I remember correctly, I trimmed those bangs almost all the way back to her scalp. What I didn’t know was, my mom had already given Sandy the bang trim before I got to her. Oops.

Little Sandy, who had a high hairline and a cute cherubic round face at the time, looked a bit strange for quite a while, thanks to her really helpful big sister. It’s probably good she didn’t know enough to be horrified at what I’d done. Sorry again, Sandy!!

But, thinking back on my own adventures in hair-cutting helped temper my reaction to my own daughter’s behavior. She is much younger than I was when I first forayed into hair-cutting and deserves a chance to learn what is appropriate and what is not. This was a fairly harmless way to do just that. In general, Abigail is quite trustworthy in many things for being only four, and on the whole, she’s very obedient. And certainly having two younger brothers so close in age behind her has caused Jay and I to expect alot of her, and maybe even more than we should. In the grand scheme of things this is really no big deal. And as she said to me yesterday, “Mom, I’ll never cut my hair again!”

10 Comments

  1. Mom/Ruth
    Mar 20, 2003

    I think we need a picture!

  2. Mom/Ruth
    Mar 22, 2003

    For the record, I rescind my previous comment, since I really wouldn’t want to embarrass Abigail.

  3. Andrew
    Mar 24, 2003

    Oh come on Ruth, she’s tough. SHOW US THE PICTURE!!!

  4. Tricia
    Mar 24, 2003

    Mommy Ruth: Thank you for your sensitivity.
    Andrew: Shame on you!! :)
    It’s sort of a moot point anyway now, as Pam trimmed her hair last Saturday and I trimmed her bangs again this morning, and we haven’t yet taken a photo. The bangs are shorter than they’ve ever been, but are looking a bit more even. Either Kimberly or Angie, I can’t remember which, said very candidly today that they couldn’t tell from looking at her that she’d cut her own hair. Thanks, girls!!

  5. Angie
    Mar 24, 2003

    It was me. I really couldn’t tell. I wouldn’t have known except that I read about it in this blog! Of course, it was windy at the park this afternoon and sometimes, I’m not the sharpest tool in the shed, but I really couldn’t tell!! It might have been *interesting* to have a close-up of the pre-professional job, just for comparison purposes. hee hee…

  6. mj
    Mar 26, 2003

    Evangeline took a turn with the scissors on her hair at the end of last summer. She didn’t get as much off before I caught her. But it has just recently began to fill in on the sides where the damage was done. At least you have a good hairdresser who could fix things up a bit.

  7. Grammy Ruth
    Mar 27, 2003

    For the record, and just so there’s no confusion, my granddaughters do not get their early haircutting proclivities from me! Though I have to admit I’ve probably done worse than either of them more than once as an adult.

  8. Tricia
    Mar 30, 2003

    A,
    Thanks for the clarification. I think you ARE sharp!!
    J,
    I hadn’t even noticed Evangeline cut her own hair the last couple times I’ve seen her. Perhaps she has a knack for it!
    MR,
    Oh, sure!! Unbeknownst to us, you are probably conducting secret hair cutting seminars for our little four year olds!! ;-0

  9. Valerie
    Apr 2, 2003

    A young friend of mine tried this a year or two ago, doing a number on her bangs. Since she was 12 or 13 at the time, and old enough to know better, Mom and Dad were a bit less reticent about laying on the teasing. They called her “Tufty” for a while, and ordered her a sweatshirt from Tufts University. She’s such a good sport that she willingly wore the shirt in public!

    I limited myself to butchering dolls’ hair when I was a child. I wonder if those who take that route are less likely to go in for self- or sibling-coiffing?

  10. Tricia
    Apr 4, 2003

    You know, Valerie, I think I actually am guilty of also cutting my dolls’ hair as a kid too, but it didn’t satisfy my “hair-cutting urge” enough to keep me away from my little sis. I think it’s good that you stuck to dolls though!